Help Build A Family Through Gestational Surrogacy

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Have you ever thought about being a surrogate?  We are currently seeking Gestational Surrogates in Dallas and Houston.

A Gestational Surrogate carries a baby for an infertile couple that can’t do so on their own.  It’s a wonderful gift to help them start their family!

Compensation ranges from $20,000-30,000 base, plus other benefits.

Email us today!  info@3ssisterssurrogacy.com

**3 Sisters Surrogacy is located in Houston, Dallas, Phoenix, and Los Angeles, serving both national and international clients.  We are currently seeking both Houston Surrogates and Dallas Surrogates for couples in Texas.  If you are interested in Surrogacy in Texas, or need information about how to become a surrogate, please contact us at info@3sisterssurrogacy.com.**
Accepting applications from all over Texas:  Dallas, Fort Worth, Plano, Frisco, Arlington, Waco, Austin, San Antonio, San Marcos, Houston, Galveston, Huntsville, Fort Hood, Killeen
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What It Takes to Be a Gestational Surrogate

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I have the opportunity to weekly interview a number of awesome women who are interested in being gestational surrogates.  Some are stay-at-home moms, some are nurses, some are in school, some home-school.  Yet there is a common thread amongst all of them – the strong desire to help others.

I do see other commonalities – many are in some sort of service industry or healthcare, a large majority have at least two kids, but none of them ever consider the surrogate baby to be theirs.  In their words, “I am just a vessel”, or “I’m loaning my uterus”, or even “It’s their bun, my oven!”.

So, what does it take to be an awesome surrogate?  We look for a number of traits – a good personality, dependability, friendly interaction with the future parents, and a proper emotional state for being able to go through all of the medical testing, pregnancy, delivery, giving the baby you’ve carried for 9 months to his/her parents, and going home.  It is certainly not for the faint of heart, but for those that do it, the experience is amazing .

Physically, we look for candidates to be between the ages of 22 and 38, a healthy weight for height (BMI less than 32 – check it here), have at least 1 prior pregnancy and birth, and the pregnancy and birth be relatively uncomplicated (no pre-term labor or delivery, no pre-eclampsia, no gestational diabetes).

Socially, we select candidates that have a healthy lifestyle (no smoking, second-hand smoke, or drug use), live in a clean environment, be able to pass a psychological evaluation and criminal background check, are married or single (cannot be separated and do surrogacy in Texas unless husband will agree to sign all paperwork), and have raised at least one child in the home.   And finally, we do not accept candidates that are on any sort of public assistance.   The reason is not that we take issue with people using Medicaid or Lone Star, but rather that (1) receiving compensation as a Gestational Surrogate will affect your ability to get benefits, and (2) many future parents want to be sure that their surrogate is in a financially stable environment.

Once we receive and review a completed application that meets our general requirements, we’ll schedule an interview.  You’ll meet with one of our case managers and go over the application, discuss the surrogacy process, and give them an opportunity to get to know your personality.  This helps in the matching process.  You’ll be given forms to complete, including background checks and a medical records release.  All medical records pertaining to birth and delivery will need to be reviewed by our medical staff.

Do you have insurance?  Having insurance that has NO exclusion for gestational surrogacy always helps when it comes to the matching process.  The surrogacy journey is very expensive for intended parents, and having insurance that will cover the pregnancy will help cut costs.  Our surrogates that have insurance generally match the quickest, but that’s not to say that those without insurance don’t get matched.  It may just take a bit longer.

As we receive calls from Intended Parents in need of gestational surrogates, we often have in mind a candidate or two to share with them right away, just based on knowing everyone’s desires for the surrogacy and personality.  We’ll send profiles for them to review, and the Parents will select those they want to interview.

**Remember** These parents are looking for someone to grow and babysit their babies for 9 months!  They are going to seek out the candidate that suits them best.  Your profile responses and photos need to be the very best representation of you possible!

After the interview with the Intended Parents, and everyone agrees they’d like to move forward, we start arranging all of the appointments!  There’s a medical evaluation, psychological evaluation, bloodwork, etc.  The final phase is the contract phase, where the amount of compensation is negotiated.   Typical BASE compensation is as follows:

1st time surrogate, no health insurance (or health insurance w/exclusion for surrogate pregnancy)- $20,000

1st time surrogacy, with health insurance (no exclusion for surrogate pregnancy) – $25,000

Repeat surrogate –  compensation is negotiable, starting at $25,000.

There are other benefits as well, including maternity clothing allowance, monthly nonaccountable item allowance, travel, extra for twins, c-section etc.  Compensation is generally paid out monthly.

Soon after the contract is signed, the medications are started for the embryo transfer!  It takes about 3 weeks to prime the uterus to be able to receive the parents’ embryos.  Then, the waiting begins…

If you do not become pregnant at the first transfer, often the process will be repeated.  Generally, a surrogate will sign on for 3 attempts.

But, when you find out you are pregnant – that’s when the fun begins!  And you’ll have a great time figuring out how to tell the parents, and waiting for the first ultrasound,  and attending the doctor visits together, and getting ready for the birth!

So, you think you have what it takes to be a Gestational Surrogate??  If so, visit our website at www.3sisterssurrogacy.com to start an application, or email us at info@3sisterssurrogacy.com.

 

**3 Sisters Surrogacy is located in Houston, Dallas, Phoenix, and Los Angeles, serving both national and international clients.  We are currently seeking both Houston Surrogates and Dallas Surrogates for couples in Texas.  If you are interested in Surrogacy in Texas, or need information about how to become a surrogate, please contact us at info@3sisterssurrogacy.com.**

 

Tragedy in Nepal: Surrogate Evacuations

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The news just keeps getting worse coming out of Nepal:  the death toll has topped 4000 and the number is expected to rise in the coming days.  And, from the comfort of my office, with several computer screens open, my smart phone next to the keyboard, and Top 40 playing on the radio, it’s hard understand the devastation so far away.  Yet, I have two friends with a daughter (teaching) and a sister (hiking) in Kathmandu that are trying to stay safe in the wake of the aftershocks.

Nepal has been a destination for international surrogacy, especially for those that are unable do so in their own country due to laws or the fact that an surrogacy costs only around $6000 there.  Although a microcosm in the huge tragedy that is occurring there, there are now, unfortunately, reports coming out of the country are that there are a number of parents via surrogacy and their newborn babies that are in Kathmandu seeking evacuation.  Families of 26 babies born to Nepalese women on behalf of Israeli parents appealed to Jerusalem for assistance, with the first three families arriving in Israel yesterday night.  Approximately 100 Nepalese are pregnant with Israel babies. (http://www.newsweek.com/israel-begins-evacuating-surrogate-families-nepal-325491).  It is unclear what will happen with these cases.

I do have to wonder about the notion of pursuing surrogacy in a country with a per capita income of $1350, where so many live in poverty, there is little infrastructure, and where buildings have not been designed to withstand the magnitude of tremor that felled them like a house of cards.  Is the draw because of the low cost os surrogacy (about $6000), or the fact that many countries have laws against surrogacy and the families must seek help elsewhere?

Regardless, this is a tragedy of epic proportion.  There is no intent to take away to what’s unfolding on a grand scale in Nepal.  Our thoughts and prayers are with the people there.

 

Photo from: http://www.newsweek.com/israel-begins-evacuating-surrogate-families-nepal-325491

**3 Sisters Surrogacy is located in Houston, Dallas, Phoenix, and Los Angeles, serving both national and international clients.  We are currently seeking both Houston Surrogates and Dallas Surrogates for couples in Texas.  If you are interested in Surrogacy in Texas, or need information about how to become a surrogate, please contact us at info@3sisterssurrogacy.com.**

 

I am 1 in 8

 

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You’d never know by looking at me.

I am tall, slender, active, intelligent.  I volunteer, go to church, attend the opera, and can dig in the dirt like nobody’s business.  I use to make babies for a living.  And you’d never know by looking at me that I was 1 in 8.

You’d never know that I became pregnant with my first child the first time we tried for it.

And you’d never know that for 3 years after her birth that I tried for a second.

You’d never know the countless times I went to the bathroom looking for the tell-tale signs of that monthly cycle that I came to hate because it was a constant reminder of what wasn’t working.

You’d never know the countless dollars I spent on pregnancy tests, imagining lines that weren’t there.

You’d never know the guilt I felt – for not being happy with one, for not being fruitful, for creating babies for others when I couldn’t create one for myself.

You’d never know I was 1 in 8.

1 in 8 women in the United States struggle with infertility, whether it’s female factor, male factor or both.   1 in 8 women experience that 28 days of hope, only to feel incredible disappointment with the first signs of bleeding.  1 in 8 couples grieve the loss of a child they may never have.

1 in 8.

What does 1 in 8 look like?  Your sister, your friend, your co-worker, your boss.  You.

Luckily, the 1 in 8 (you, me, your boss) are not alone.  This week is National Infertility Awareness Week, sponsored by RESOLVE – the National Infertility Awareness Association.   RESOLVE works to “promote reproductive health and to ensure equal access to all family building options for men and women experiencing infertility or other reproductive disorders.”

RESOLVE is a great resource for those starting, or in the midst, of their infertility journey.  They are involved in advocacy, education, and fundraising.  They work to restore hope and want to make 1 in 8 a factitious statistic.

They want you to know you are not alone.  They want you to know that there are options available to become parents.  They want to you know there is hope.

I know – because I WAS 1 in 8.

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For more information about National Infertility Awareness Week, please visit www.resolve.org.

 

**3 Sisters Surrogacy is located in Houston, Dallas, Phoenix, and Los Angeles, serving both national and international clients.  We are currently seeking both Houston Surrogates and Dallas Surrogates for couples in Texas.  If you are interested in Surrogacy in Texas, or need information about how to become a surrogate, please contact us at info@3sisterssurrogacy.com.**

 

 

Esperando – However You Look At It

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I love that the verb “to hope” and “to wait” is the same word in Spanish – Esperar.  What is the difference between hoping and waiting – not much except for the expectation of the outcome.

Tomorrow morning, one of our surrogates is having a frozen embryo transfer.  This couple has one frozen embryo remaining – their last chance.  This couple has been “waiting” a long time for this to happen.  But they are “hoping” for a positive outcome.  We all are.

It is always nerve wracking, this point in the surrogacy. Often, the parents have embryos frozen, so the little embies have two humps to get over – (1) to survive the thaw process, and (2) stick to the uterus!  First everyone will “wait” for the phone call to give the embryo survival status, and then will “hope” that the embryo made it.

Everyone will jump in their car and head to the clinic.  The surrogate will be placed in stirrups and the tiny thawed embryo, who is about as big as a period on this page, will be injected through a catheter into her uterus.

Then comes the 2ww (two week “wait”).  The waiting is hard, but the hoping is harder.

Usually it is not two weeks. Surrogates are notorious about testing early.

But, once they see that faint little line… that’s the point that I receive several texts a day of  “Do you see it?  Is there one there?  I think I see a line!”.  And then she’ll test 10 times after that to be sure. She’ll be as excited for this pregnancy as she was for her own, even knowing it is for someone else. Partly because she’s excited to be pregnant, but mainly because she knows she’s about to change someone’s life in an amazing way.

Good luck to our sweet surrogate tomorrow.

Estoy esperando.  I am waiting.  I am hoping.

**3 Sisters Surrogacy is located in Houston, Dallas, Phoenix, and Los Angeles, serving both national and international clients.  We are currently seeking both Houston Surrogates and Dallas Surrogates for couples in Texas.  If you are interested in Surrogacy in Texas, or need information about how to become a surrogate, please contact us at info@3sisterssurrogacy.com.**

 

 

Wait, What? Senior Citizen Pregnant With Quads

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Well, it was bound to happen – some secret fertility doctor at some secret location has pushed the limits on the age of motherhood.  In an article out today, it is reported that a 65-year old mother of 13 children (ages 9-44) is pregnant yet again with quadruplets.

I don’t even know where to start with this.

I could talk about the difficulties of pregnancies in advanced age women.  Or I could talk about the risks of quadruplets.  I could even mention that it’s a little weird that siblings will be 45 years apart.  And it’s not even like she doesn’t have children!!

But as an infertility professional with over 15 years in the business – I have to wonder what was going through the mind of the physician that did this procedure.  Most clinics in the United States have cut-off for treatment for women using their own eggs at around 45. In the cases of women using donor eggs, the physician may consider treating women up to ages 49-50.   In this case, and although it is pure speculation on my part,  there was likely an egg donor involved.  And for whatever reason, this physician chose to treat a 65 year old woman, who has increased risk for high blood pressure and gestational diabetes just for being pregnant, who is at a very high risk for pre-term labor and birth, pre-eclampsia, and fetal development problems, and who will quite possibly be a resident of the local old-folks home before the children ever finish high-school.

I understand the desire to have children – I’ve helped hundreds of babies get their start in the world through IVF and know that every single one was a most wanted child.  And I understand giving up the ghost on the idea of having anymore. Certainly, there are days when even I think, “Maybe one more…”.   But I’m a 44 mom single mom of three, and it’s just not meant to be.

And maybe is shouldn’t have been meant to be in this case as well.

To read more:

http://nypost.com/2015/04/13/mother-of-13-pregnant-with-quadruplets-at-age-65/

**3 Sisters Surrogacy is located in Houston, Dallas, Phoenix, and Los Angeles, serving both national and international clients.  We are currently seeking both Houston Surrogates and Dallas Surrogates for couples in Texas.  If you are interested in Surrogacy in Texas, or need information about how to become a surrogate, please contact us at info@3sisterssurrogacy.com.**

 

Surrogacy Contracts A Must!

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Today I came across an article entitled, “What It’s Really Like To Be A Surrogate Mother“. At first I thought “Yay! Another great article to share with our followers!”

However, as I read it I was mortified – not at the buying of supplies at Walgreens to do home inseminations (although it gave me pause), and not about the lack of information about FDA requirements for sperm donation to non-sexually intimate partners (I could speak at great length about this as well).

There was absolutely NO mention of the legalities involved in their surrogacy process. Nada. Nowhere did this article address the absolute importance of having an airtight contract in place prior to, or even during, this surrogate pregnancy.

Don’t get me wrong, it is a lovely thing to carry your brother’s child. But even (and especially) with family surrogacy, it is CRUCIAL to have legal framework outlining the surrogate relationship, medical issues, and parentage of the child. Sister could have refused to give up the baby and sued dad for child support. Not that she would, but she could have. Or the dads could have walked away and left her with baby and medical bills. Let’s just hope that all of this was taken care and only left out of the article for journalistic flow.

If and when you decide to give someone the gift of surrogacy, or are parents needing surrogacy to build a family, do not, never ever ever, enter into it without a legal contract.

(as an aside, we work with a number of trusted attorneys that are experts in the intricacies of surrogacy law).

Read more: http://www.refinery29.com/2015/04/84941/surrogate-mother-gay-couple

“He Was Never Mine”

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I received a heartfelt note last week from one of our gestational surrogates that was about to deliver.  She spoke of what this experience meant to her, and how she was considering a second journey with the parents.  But what really stood out to me was the gratitude she expressed…how much it meant to her to be a part of this beautiful process.

But in this gratitude, there was also a phrase that made my eyes well up with tears:

“He was never mine.”

I have been an infertility professional for 15 years.  IVF/embryology, egg donation, surrogacy, the works.  But with that one phrase, the reality of what she had done really set in.

“He was never mine.  He was and is always L & J’s first son. I’ll be going back to my family after the delivery and that’s the way this was all meant to be.”

In a world where surrogacy is portrayed as a “rent-a-womb” industry, where the only news the media ever publishes is bad, and movies made about the subject are either comedies or horror films, it is a shame that THIS isn’t how surrogacy is viewed.  This is a real-life experience – and what an experience it was.   She knew and understood from the very beginning how things would work – that she would work for 9 months to create this child.and then hand him over to his parents and go home without him.  And she was ok with that.  Not in an “OK, all done, let’s move on” kind of way, but in a more touching, bittersweet kind of way.

Below is her letter in it’s entirety.  I hope it touches you as it touched me.

*names have been removed*

“Crazy to think after meeting in November of 2013, that we would be here..a week away from delivery day in March of 2015. This pregnancy has flown by and I’m so excited to give this (not so) little guy back to his parents. He is going to change their lives, I know he’s already changed mine. I’m so grateful that his parents chose me, trusted me and believed in me. I was entrusted to care for this baby for the first nine months of his life…and to me that’s amazing. The first day of the rest of their lives starts a week from today. Nothing will ever be the same, and I know they’ll never want it to be.

I’ve had so many of my friends ask me how I’m going to feel after I leave the hospital with no baby. And all I can do is look at them and smile, because I know that they truly don’t get it. Leaving the hospital without him is the way it’s supposed to be and was always meant to be. He’s going home to his parents…his mommy and daddy. The people who will rock him back to sleep at 2 am, who will feel overwhelming love when he giggles for the first time, to watch him take his first steps and kiss his boo boos when he falls down. They’ll be the ones walking him to class on his first day of kindergarten, teaching him to ride a bike, giving him advice on friends, and then watching him walk across the stage at his high school graduation. That was all meant for his parents.
 He was never mine. He was and is always L&J’s first son. I’ll be going back to my family after the delivery and that’s the way this was all meant to be.
I’ve received an outpouring of support from people I know through this journey..friends of mine who are struggling with infertility, friends who have finished their families and are also thinking about being a surrogate now.
So for me and I feel like for L&J ..this is just the beginning.
Thank you all for bringing us together. “

 

FAMILY BUILDERS – The 3 Sisters Surrogacy Referral Program

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What’s the next best thing to being a surrogate? Helping a friend become one!

We feel that word-of-mouth is the best type of referral we can get, so starting April 1st, we are launching our new referral program – FAMILY BUILDERS. Here’s how it works:

If you refer a surrogate candidate to us, and they are accepted and matched with future intended parents, you will be receive a Family Builder Bonus of $250 (for those candidates without health insurance that covers surrogate pregnancy) or $500 (for those candidates with health insurance that covers surrogate pregnancy). See below for general acceptance requirements.

We also offer a Family Builder Bonus of $500 for referrals of future parents in need of a surrogate that sign with our company.

So, start asking your sister, your friends, your sister’s friends if they are interested in helping couples suffering with infertility start their family! Then, refer her to our website at www.3sisterssurrogacy.com to complete an initial application, or email us at info@3sisterssurrogacy.com. Be sure she lists you as the referral source on the application and refer to the Family Builders program.

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Disclaimer:
All surrogacy referral bonuses are to be paid to the referral source after candidate passes screening process, has matched with a couple for the purpose of gestational surrogacy, and has executed the gestational surrogacy contract with the couple.
Intended Parent referral bonus is paid to the referral source at the time that the couple signs an Agency Agreement with 3 Sisters Surrogacy.
If the same referral is made by two people, both will split the bonus.
Candidates cannot list themselves as referral source.
General Surrogate Candidate Requirements:
*US citizen
*Ages 22-38
*Normal weight (BMI here for calculator)
Healthy lifestyle (no drug use, no smoking, occasional alcohol is OK, but not during pregnancy)
*Must have had easy pregnancies and deliveries (no pre-eclampsia; miscarriages, c-sections, and pre-term labor/birth reviewed on a case-by-case basis)
*Stable, supportive network of friends and family
*Cannot be on public assistance (no Medicaid or Lone Star Card)
*Must be able to pass criminal background check, child abuse check, psychological and medical screening
*Must live in Texas or other surrogacy-friendly state.
*Health insurance that does not have a surrogacy exclusion a plus, but not required.

FAQs for Future Parents through Surrogacy

Future Parents FAQs:

1. Where do I start?
Looking for a gestational surrogate is a daunting task. An agency like 3 Sisters Surrogacy is the perfect place to get started on this adventure! 3 Sisters Surrogacy works to match just the right gestational surrogate with a family by thoroughly screening each candidate, performing background, child abuse, and home checks, review medical records, in-depth interviews with candidates, arrange travel and appointments,establish escrow in an independent escrow firm, provide referrals for doctors and attorneys, serve as an intermediary during interviews between both parties, as well as throughout the pregnancy, if needed. Call us at 877-976-9483, email info@3sisterssurrogacy.com or visit our website at www.3sisterssurrogacy.com to get more information.

2. Do you work with families outside of Texas?
We work with families ALL OVER THE WORLD!

3. What is your agency fee and what is included?
Our agency for gestational surrogacy (with no egg donor) is $12,500. This fee covers our management of your case, in-depth review of the surrogate, escrow management fee (~$1000) in an independent firm, attorney fees for gestational surrogate (~$500), fees for psychological evaluation (~$1000), background and child abuse checks (~$200). This fee is paid over 3 installments – the first is at the time of signing the agency agreement, the second at the time of signing the contract with the gestational surrogate, and the third installment is due when we get a confirmation of pregnancy. We also provide a beautiful gift to the surrogate after delivery.

4. What are the other fees involved?
The aforementioned fees above are included in our agency fee. Other additional fees are quite variable, depending on where you are in the process, and what facilities you use. They include (approximate):
In Vitro Fertilization – $15,000 – $25,000
Egg donor (if needed ) $10,000 (discounted if you use The Donor Solution)
Surrogate Compensation – $22,000 – $30,000
Legal – $3000 – $5000
Delivery – $0 – $15,000 (depending on insurance status)
Insurance – $0 – $10,000
Other Surrogate expenses – travel, maternity clothes, and unforseen circumstances (c-section, twins, etc) – $1000 – $15,000

FORTUNATELY, we offer financing through American Healthcare Lending! Contact us for more information!

5. How does your agency select surrogates?
We receive many applications per week, but only about 5-10% of them ever end up in the candidate pool. Our basic requirements include:

Ages 23-38
Easy Pregnancies
Children living in the home
Healthy lifestyle – no drugs, smoking in the home, healthy eating
BMI<31
No public assistance
Be able to pass background and child abuse check
Be able to pass psychological evaluation
Have a strong desire to help a couple start their family
Be willing to travel

6. Will your surrogates work with gay couples? Couples of other ethnicities?
We want both our surrogates AND future parents to be comfortable with each other throughout the pregnancies. Some surrogates have expressed a desire to carry for only heterosexual couples, some for only their same ethnic group, while others are more open to all types of families. As we visit with each couple and surrogate, we get to know what their ideal situation is, and take that into account as we are introducing all parties involved.

7. Can the surrogate back out and try to keep the baby?
Texas is considered a surrogacy-friendly state, for one because of something called a “Pre-birth Order”. This is legal paperwork drawn up by the parents’ attorney and filed in the courts that establish the legal parentage as the actual genetic (or intended) parents. After this paperwork is filed (generally about 20-22 weeks), the baby is legally the parents’ baby, and their names go on the birth certificate.

8. What kind of relationship will I have with the surrogate?
We leave the development of relationship up to the parties involved. Sometimes the couple wants a close relationship with the surrogate, attend every doctor’s visit, go to yoga together. Other times, a more contractual relationship is desired. Regardless of what type of relationship evolves, it is important to have a good working relationship at the very minimum.

9. Where will the surrogate be implanted with my embryos?
The surrogate will travel to your fertility doctor for the embryo transfer. Typically two visits are required – one for the initial visit, and one for the embryo transfer.

10. Where will my surrogate deliver.

The surrogate usually delivers in a hospital near to here, with her ob of choice, unless otherwise arranged between the future parents and the surrogate.

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